Pastoral Care2021-10-10T14:01:15-05:00

Pastoral Care

There are lots of things that pastors and other staff need input on …

Keeping Your Marriage Healthy in Ministry

By |January 11th, 2023|

Recent research indicates that high level marital satisfaction is insufficient to keep a marriage healthy by itself. Generations of broken families make it extremely difficult to practice what one has never seen up close [...]

Free Easter App for Your Church

By |April 4th, 2022|

Updated April 4, 2022 with a QR code. Gregory Love and Kimberlee Norris have produced a free resource for Easter. Greg says, the app goes viral every year around this time as churches use [...]

Your Pastor’s Heavy Pack

By |December 9th, 2020|

Chances are, your pastor is exhausted. Here are the surprising reasons why. There’s something that church leaders need to know. If you serve on a church board or leadership council, please lean in. Pastor, [...]

Ask Better Questions

By |November 24th, 2020|

Questions are powerful—sometimes more powerful than we acknowledge. Unaware of how to use questions well, leaders unnecessarily bring uncertainty into their group discussions. Now, more than ever, stakes can be knowingly and unknowingly high [...]

Peace with Others

By |November 16th, 2020|

When we think about leadership, we don’t always think about peace. If you’ve observed a skillful and thoughtful leader, you know that their relationships are marked by peacefulness. I’m not suggesting that these leaders [...]

Befriending Your Monsters

By |May 14th, 2020|

Luke Norsworthy started a powerful conversation at this year's XP-Seminar. Many pastors were deeply moved by Luke's talk. Join us for more as Fletch and Luke Norsworthy discuss Luke's latest book, Befriending Your Monsters: [...]

COVID-19 and Culture Shock

By |April 17th, 2020|

COVID-19 has brought culture shock and angst to us all. David Fletcher and Mike Gould explain our discomfort at home, in the home-office, shopping and family life. Experience a one-minute street scene of India [...]

An Executive Minister on Church Event Safety

By |September 16th, 2019|

Our youth and children’s ministers recently said, “This is one of the most spiritually transformational events that we do.” We were discussing a camp for elementary age kids where our youth serve as counselors. [...]

Spiritual Development and Ministry Metrics

By |August 15th, 2019|

Spiritual growth is a process and you can help people on that path. Identify your process and key milestones to measure. Obtain and utilize the right data. Fletch and Mark DeMoss will examine this [...]

Calls from Angry Church Members

By |November 27th, 2018|

Hey Fletch … I’m new to dealing with church relationships. Sitting in the Director of Finance chair, I receive calls from disturbed congregants. I struggle with this. I don’t understand how followers of Christ can [...]

Review of “Through Colored Glasses”

By |June 7th, 2018|

I recently had the pleasure to interview Tom Harper, CEO of Networld Media Group and publisher of BiblicalLeadership.com. Tom recently released Through Colored Glasses: How Great Leaders Reveal Reality which addresses a leadership challenge identified in Proverbs 16:2—All a [...]

Hurting Pastor in a Jungle of Chaos

By |April 6th, 2018|

Friday, April 6, 2018 Hey Fletch ... You know, there's a lot of material for counseling marriages. There is little out there that I'm aware of for counseling for pastors who take the shots and [...]

Ministry Leads to Weight Gain

By |March 15th, 2018|

Thursday, March 15, 2018 Hey Fletch … This one is rather personal. Your column is a safe place for me to ask it. I have been gaining weight. Often I am at breakfast and [...]

Soapbox Racers

By |March 9th, 2018|

Driving 80 miles per hour in a Soapbox Racer is absurd. You will quickly crash. Accelerate your Soapbox Racer from 10 mph up to 30 mph. You will rejoice at going 30 mph. But your [...]

We Had a Narcissist on Staff

By |February 19th, 2018|

Monday, February 19, 2018 Hey Fletch … I’m on the other side of the international date line from you, but church issues are the same the world over. We had a Narcissist on our [...]

You Are Not a Pastor

By |February 7th, 2018|

February 7, 2018 Hey Fletch … I’m a hurtin’ puppy in Oklahoma right now. Got my tail between my legs. A fellow pastor on staff came into my office and said, “You are not [...]

Just Got Dissed in an Email

By |January 31st, 2018|

January 31, 2018 Hey David … This one is personal and hard to write. I just got an email that seems to say that I wasn’t on a project any longer. I’m totally shocked. [...]

Wisdom for Interim Pastors

By |October 18th, 2013|

It’s easier for Interim Pastors to juggle live hand grenades, and less dangerous, than to juggle political causes and the local church’s mission. There’s no way to win at that game today. If a hand grenade explodes, there’s [...]