Four-Wall Discussions

Four-Wall Discussions

Wednesday, March 7, 2018

Hey Fletch … I’ve heard you use the term “four wall discussions.” Could you define that for me?

DRF—I call certain meetings “four-wall discussions” to signify that what is said should stay in the four walls of the room. A profane equivalent is “what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas.”

Here is what you do with a church team. Lay out the ground rules that every comment is fair game in the discussion. In a four-wall discussion, people can vent. They can share insecurities and pain. They can be ‘wrong’ on an issue. Team members can explore orthodox and unusual options. If you can’t do that with a trusted team, who can you talk with?

When someone crosses the line and harsh words are spoken, amends need to be made. Often after a meeting, I have seen team members go to another and bring gentle confrontation. At the next team meeting, the offender makes an apology—and the team is healthier. That is a four-wall discussion at work.

Nothing is final until the team hears the words, “decision made.” Then, everyone needs to support that decision.

2018-07-13T15:22:05+00:00By |Fletch Staff, Hey Fletch|

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For over 35 years, David has served churches from 1,000 to 8,000 members. As well as being a pastor, David is a spiritual entrepreneur. He founded XPastor as a global ministry tool for leaders of churches of all sizes. XPastor provides a website, an XP-Newsletter, the annual XP-Seminar, workshops, and online courses.