Lead Self
Lead Others
XPastor Mentoring Clinic
"Lead Self-Lead Others"
September 10-11, 2007
NewSong Church, Fullerton, California
"If you are serious about growing your staff from the inside out, this is the one to attend. One of the best values that I have received in both my short ministerial experience and corporate experience."
—JP Gradone, The Tabernacle, Sarasota, Florida"This is a unique opportunity to discover the dance of an XP & SP by discovering more about ourselves and each other."
—Peter Park, NewSong Church, Fullerton, California
XPastor's Leadership Clinic, "Lead Self-Lead Others," will help you understand and face the spiritual leadership demands that come as an XP. Gain invaluable insights as you learn how God has wired you and how others respond to you.
Come as a Team or Alone
"It will help you to deal with those things in your relationship with your Senior Pastor that you want to say but have never summed up the courage to say. It will help change the way you communicate with your SP and even with your spouse."
—Jabulani Mwale, The Solid Rock Church, CoLouth, Ireland"I discovered a much deeper level of who I am, who my senior pastor is, and how we can work more effectively with this deeper understanding."
Discover How to Lead Self
"It gave great insight into my personality and how I like to work. It also helped me to understand how everyone has needs and I need to learn how I can meet those needs." —Patrick Coelho, Redemption World Outreach Center, Greenville, South Carolina
"It “pegged” me perfect. It knew who I am normally, and who I am under stress."
—John Westurn, Five Oaks Community Church, Woodbury, Minnesota"It not only read my mail but brought out things that I initially disagreed with until I probed them a little deeper. Then I found out it was not only reading my mail, but must have talked to my wife!"
—JP Gradone, The Tabernacle, Sarasota, Florida
Lead Others
"Lead Self-Lead Others" is led by Dr. Nathan Baxter, XP of Liberty Church in Tulsa, Oklahoma. He is the founder of the "Lead Self-Lead Others Foundation." Nathan has taken XP mentoring to new heights by creating a leadership culture that places a high value on self leadership. He believes that you must "lead self well" so that you can best lead others. Nathan made a strategic decision four years ago to spend the lion's share of his week in guiding, coaching, and praying with his leadership staff.
During the hour Nathan spends with each of his volunteer and paid staff leadership, they review together the leader's personal life, leadership skills, ministry advancement and spiritual life. In addition to one-on-one time, he works with the church’s three leadership teams, guiding them to further the ministry of the church while experiencing God and one another. He has taken a group of leaders and helped them to become a group of friends who together advance the mission of the church. Also, Nathan's mentoring and leadership training has grown beyond the walls of the church. In addition to being a mentoring specialist with our XPastor organization, he leads two non-profit foundations that provide mentoring resources; the Lead Self–Lead Others Foundation and the Pink Strategies Foundation, providing resources to women in business. He also provides lectures for doctoral students on the subject of mentoring at two seminaries.
- The XPastor Leadership Clinic, ""Lead Self-Lead Others," has several distinctive features:
- Learn a mentoring philosophy. See an in-depth system for mentoring paid and volunteer staff.
- Based on your uniqueness as a leader, learn how to create and develop your mentoring plan. Go home with your own plan.
- Learn and exchange development tools and techniques with other XPs from around the country. Get a chance to share your resources and what you have developed.
- Return to your place of ministry with a full range of mentoring tools that will guide you in developing your leaders.
Dr. Nathan Baxter
Executive Pastor
Liberty Church, Tulsa
Founder "Lead Self-Lead
Others" Foundation
Dr. David Fletcher
Founder &
Host of XPastor
What you will learn
Get an in-depth diagnosis with the Birkman® Indicator; read about the Birkman® Indicator. It is a $500 value with 70 pages of reports. When Dr. Fletcher took the Birkman® 15 years ago, he wondered, "were they looking over my shoulder?"
- Life Style Report
- Strengths and Needs Report
- Stress Report; how you respond to it, not how to create it!
- Coaching Report
- Your Leadership Style and Negotiating Style Report
- Difference to Watch Report.
- This is for those who come with another from their staff. It is an in-depth look at the unique ways you work with the other person.
- and much more!
The Clinic will have "Prep Exercises." Dr. Baxter’s clinic will engage you:
- Required reading and assignments
- Spouse and child survey which is for your eyes only
- Self-survey which is an exercise in reflection
- Leadership survey by your staff and key volunteers
Date & Location
- September 10-11, 2007
- Monday, September 10, 8:30 am to Tuesday, September 11, 4:00 pm
- Hosted by NewSong Church, Fullerton, California, 505 E. Commonwealth Ave. Ste. 100, Fullerton, CA 92832
- Bring the family and let them go to Disneyland, just 5 miles away
- Enjoy Newport Beach, just 15 miles away
Hotel, Meals & Travel
- Hotel options (coming soon)
- Close to John Wayne Airport (SNA)
- Begin on Monday morning at 8:30 am and plan to depart after 4:00 pm on Tuesday.
- Meals
- Breakfast and dinner is on your own
- Lunches are provided by XPastor
Registration
- $599 per person
- Due to the unique nature of this event, there will be a $250 cancellation fee if you must withdraw.
- Limited enrollment, so sign up early!
- Open to Executive Pastors, Senior Pastors and other church leaders. For best results, come as a team.
- There is an international rate of $450.
- Required preparation. Read assigned texts. Be interviewed by XP Nathan Baxter. Register today and receive your preparation exercises.
Read comments on past XPastor events
Questions?
- E-mail Tami Fletcher, XPastor's Executive Assistant, or
- E-mail Dr. Nathan Baxter, host of the clinic
Attendees
- Dr. Nathan Baxter, XP of Liberty Church, Tulsa, Oklahoma
- Joe Casiglia, Executive Director of Faith Lutheran Church, Troy, Michigan
- Andrew Cromwell, XP of Koinonia Christian Fellowship, Hanford, California
- Elizabeth Diaz del Campo, XP of The Light Family Church, El Cajon, California
- Dr. David Fletcher, XP & Founder/Host of XPastor, Grace Covenant Church, Austin, Texas
- Matt Henke, Pastor of Adult Education of Grace Covenant Church, Austin, Texas
- Terry Jones, Lay Ministry/Outreach of Olive Knolls Church, Bakersfield, California
- Peter Park, XP of NewSong Church North Orange County, Fullerton, California
- Glenn Reph, XP of Northshore Baptist Church, Bothell, Washington
Limited attendance, so sign up early!
Schedule of Events
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| Breakfast on your own | |
| 8:30 | Welcome & Introductions
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| 9:30 | Break |
| 9:45 | Session 1: Birkman® Reports, Part 1
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| 11:30 | Break for Lunch (provided) |
| 12:30 | Session 2: Birkman® Reports, Part 2
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| 3:00 | Session 3: 8: Crafting your Mentoring Plan
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| 4:00 | Session 4: Practicing Your Mentoring Discoveries
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| 5:00 | Dismissal |
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| Breakfast on your own | |
| 8:30 | The impact of a Mentoring Culture
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| 9:45 | Break |
| 10:00 | Session 6: Developing Your Vision for a Leadership Culture
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| 11:30 | Break for Lunch (provided) |
| 12:30 | Session 7: Identification of Your Mentoring Style
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| 1:45 | Break |
| 2:00 | Session 8: Crafting Your Mentoring Plan |
| 3:00 | Session 9: Evaluate Your Mentoring Plan |
| 4:00 | Final Thoughts and Conclusion |
Let the Attendees Speak
From the 2006 clinic
- The conference was practical, focused and timely. I walked away with a plan that I couldn't wait to implement when I got home. The time spent with other XP's was priceless. I feel as if I am not alone.
- Hearing success stories is encouraging and has renewed my hope in and motivation to be a great mentor.
- Incredibly valuable to connect with peers and talk through our clinic process, as well as other ministry issues.
- Great facilitating by Nathan! The format provided great inspiration and challenge for me personally.
- Nathan and his team's open honesty was awesome. They really brought life to what we were reading on paper. My eyes were opened to a whole new framework of what mentoring is and how to do it.
- Thank you so much for sharing what God has given you. I look forward to learning more from you over the years.
- I have attended dozens of clinics/trainings about a variety of topics in several industries. This clinic has been the most helpful.
From the 2005 clinic
You can read all the evaluations. However, here are a few responses. Nathan asked ...
- "What changes have you made in your mentoring mindset since the XP Days of Mentoring?"
- "What specific actions have you been doing to more effectively mentor others?"
Steve replied ...
After our time together I attended the Flippen Leadership series which went right along with what you covered.
- Change in thinking ... I now believe the way to bring out the best in the staff is for the office to be an emotionally safe place for everyone. This frees up all of their creative energies for forward momentum.
- Specific Actions ... Doing meetings with individual staff at the local coffee shop (unfortunately there are no Panera breads in our town), recommending strategic reading to staff, greater accountability, greater approachability, and establishing a very thorough written annual review for each employee with 4 different levels ... participant review, peer review, self review and supervisory review.
—Steven Vinson, XP, Canyon Hills Church, Bakersfield, California
Stacey said ...
Thanks for the questions and I'd be curious to hear what the others have to say and be updated on their respective situations, if possible.
- I have been able to create some tools that give me some categories to think in and provide direction with the various staff I oversee, rather than just making things up as I go. While it may look different once I get further into things with folks, it at least gives me a foundation to start with, a place to begin, and allows me to think about what a spiritually transformed person looks like. It's more than helping them "produce ministry." I want them to become more passionate followers of Christ and lovers of people. I haven't been able to implement this as much as I would have liked because I don't want to just jump in with folks without really spending intentional time in prayer, seeking God's direction, and how I can come alongside them. Actually, I'm going to be taking this Thursday as an all-day prayer retreat to do just that.
- Oops. I think I just answered that above. I'm starting to pray with people more, and have also been challenged that as much as I need to come alongside them to lead, I also need to get out front and lead, as well. That means being more intentional, asking harder questions, taking them in directions or places that they might not want to go, but need to go. Also, I've continually wrestled with the question we asked ourselves during our time together: "Why does God have me here at this time, in this place, with this position?" That has been a liberating question to do what God has called me to do and not be embarrassed by it, shy about it, or arrogant. But to do what he has asked me to do, do it well, and do it humbly.
Thanks, Nathan. I appreciate our ongoing dialogue and your insight into helping me be a better mentor.
—Stacey Campbell, XP, Christ Community Church, Greeley, Colorado
Duane commented ...
I have spent a great deal of time reflecting on the impact of my time in Tulsa. It was as impacting a few days as any other time in my life. It's as if God exploded some things within me in preparation for the sabbatical that I will begin on Monday.
Nathan, I hope I have opportunities to give back to you in the future and that our friendship might broaden and deepen over time. This is not to put something on you, but rather to express my heartfelt appreciation for who you are, and what you've done in my life.
Tell Paul I reflect on his input and have been impacted by things he has said or by reading materials he has recommended. I have connected with Dave and he has been an invaluable resource. Brad will be coming to K.C. in July to do three Lifeplans. Your life has served to encourage me to go to the next level of mentoring.
—Duane Cilke, XP, River of Life Church, Kansas City, Missouri
Other Responses to Nathan's Mentoring
Kris Samons, Associate Pastor of Singles, Glenview Baptist Church, Fort Worth, Texas
- Nathan has been a friend and mentor for about ten years. When we met in 1994, I was just an eager young college kid who had very little direction as to what or who I'd someday become. I remember several times when Nathan and I began to meet that he challenged me to look beyond the scope of what I always thought I knew. He continued to have this effect on me and my wife as we courted, got engaged, and married. Things that I have learned from Nathan have been the most memorable and formidable lessons I have ever learned from anyone.
- Some of the mantra-like statements that I have become known for in my circle of influence have come from lessons assisted by Nathan. Those major lessons have revolved around the ideas of ministering out of character, kingdom living, spiritual formation and relevant church work. We have seldom lived in the same city at any time during the last ten years. Yet, Nathan and I have maintained a long-distance, long-term Paul/Timothy relationship. I attribute much of the success I've had in my short career to Nathan's commitment to guide, teach, and befriend me.
John Neudorf, House Church Pastor, Kansas City, Missouri
- I have known Nathan Baxter for 5 years - most of that time working under him as Youth Pastor while he was the Senior Pastor. In that time, I have come to know and appreciate Nathan very much - specifically because of how God has used him in my life. One of the primary skills he possesses that has impacted me is his ability to listen to people without trying to change them.
- He has done a wonderful job of helping me think through things in my life and ministry from a different perspective without the pressure of being "right" or "wrong." He has an ability to let others discover things for themselves - with him serving as a catalyst and encourager in the discovery. I've been deeply impacted by his willingness to come alongside and serve - doing whatever he can to enable others to be successful. He has always been willing to share his own life experiences, both good and bad, with great humility.
Stacy Sweeten, Executive Vice President, Performance Physical Therapy Group, Fort Smith/Fayetteville, Arkansas
- It is a pleasure for me to take a moment and discuss Nathan Baxter. Originally, I began working with Nathan as a leadership mentor but now I consider him a friend. Much of my time with Nathan has been incredibly beneficial for that reason - Nathan creates an atmosphere that allows you to work through any challenges you may be experiencing with a lifelong, trusted friend.
- Nathan's business is people. It sounds simple, but I have never met anyone who is better with people than Nathan. Whether the issue is managing people, developing people or rewarding people Nathan is there - ready to unleash unlimited wisdom and indispensable resources. In the business world, we often hear "people are our greatest asset" and that sounds great on a slick marketing piece. However, that has been the cornerstone of my work with Nathan. Nathan has helped us to implement a fundamental belief that if we grow our people, our people will, in turn, grow our business. I have witnessed this philosophy at work and yes, it works!
- Our company has enjoyed great success in our first year of business and certainly Nathan deserves a great deal of credit for helping us find our way. I am extremely confident that you will feel the same.
Randy Osborn, Pastor of New Roads Baptist Church, Baton Rouge, Louisiana
- I have known Nathan Baxter since 1980. I feel like Nathan was a mentor early in my life as I was part of his youth group. He continued to be a mentor as a senior in college reaching out to a freshman. This relationship continued as I entered ministry and would seek counsel and friendship. The greatest impact has been when I became his associate pastor. For three years I was blessed to weekly and even daily be challenged and encouraged as a person and minister in Christ. Now that I pastor a church I still benefit from our friendship and encouragement when we get to visit.
- Nathan listens. As I have walked with Nathan through many different seasons I have found a man whose only agenda for my life is for me to realize all that I should be in Christ. Every challenge and encouragement given pointed me toward an authentic relationship with the Lord and a genuine approach to the life He has called me to live.
- I have always enjoyed his teaching. Nathan brings a fresh and dynamic passion for authenticity in life and ministry. I encourage anyone to be part of an event where God can use him to enrich their lives.
Ryan Pannell, Student Ministries Team Leader, Liberty Church
- Nathan Baxter has been a faithful encourager to me. From helping me become a strategic planner to giving me the necessary skills to become a leader, Nathan has improved my ability to fulfill the commission God has given me. Perhaps the most impressive quality about Nathan Baxter is that he is a continuous learner. He doesn't pretend to have all the answers but strives to improve his ability to equip leaders. Finally, Nathan models what he preaches. I have seen the very things he encourages me to do exemplified in his own life.
Melody Lenox, Worship Arts Team Leader, Liberty Church
- Nathan Baxter is a visionary leader. He has moved our church into strategic planning in order to accomplish our 5 year envisioned future. The way that he supports our Senior Pastor and enables him to be successful is incredible. On a personal level, he saw some leadership qualities in me that I didn't even see, and through encouragement and coaching he has helped me identify and develop those qualities. With his guidance I have been able to embrace my calling, and articulate my passions and my vision. I can honestly say that I would not be where I am today if it weren't for Nathan. He has been a great team leader, encourager, and friend. He is a gift to me and to our church.
Chuck Allison, Children's Ministry Team Leader, Liberty Church
- As the Children's Pastor at Liberty Church, I have worked with and reported to Nathan Baxter for almost a year now. Our relationship has been providential for me because of my need to be more focused about what I do. As many leaders with a shepherd's heart, I am drawn towards people and their needs. Almost anything that I am involved in will be pushed aside if someone asks for time with me—face-to-face, on the phone, or otherwise; it is my nature and my heart to respond to them. My challenge is this: I am learning to look at not only the people in front of me, but those that can and should be influenced by those in front of me, layer after layer, generation after generation—beyond my direct contact. Multiplying my influence requires much more focus and intentionality than responding "in the moment" to people around me.
- One of Nathan's strengths is to think exactly that way: what needs to happen today to impact both individual people, and the influence that they might have tomorrow—and the next day, and the next day, and beyond. Even more importantly, Nathan's desire is to do more than communicate to me the need or game-plan to develop a new perspective or "tool-set." His ability to understand and accept the personality, skills, gifts, and experience of others is essential to his ability to help them expand their effectiveness. There are some things I will always be, and there are others I will never be. Some of these are essential, productive, and unique—others are just the opposite: distracting, ineffective, and more. What sets Nathan apart is his unusual ability to combine long term compassionate understanding and true concern about a person with his desire that they learn to do their job more effectively.
- Many leaders who see compelling the need for task completion as the driving priority of their relationships with others can and will tell you what to do and remind you when you are not doing it, but few will see those around them as individuals, and will correspondingly make it their priority to partner in a long-term effort to both recognize unique qualities of effectiveness and usefulness that already exist, and to target and build others that don't.
Mark Hackler, Strategic Leadership Team Member/Outreach, Liberty Church
- I have known Nathan Baxter for the past 25 years. Over these years I have witnessed a true transformation in character and leadership. Nathan has transformed into a person who truly cares about people and their own issues. Nathan is also very gifted in developing the leadership gift in others. Specifically, Nathan has assisted me in my own leadership by modeling skills and values that align with the vision of our own team that we serve together on. I am always encouraged by Nathan not so much by his words of encouragement but by the life that he leads.
- Nathan is very skilled in communicating vision, recruiting others to join him and aligning activities to successfully deliver the vision. One of Nathan's strongest suites is engaging people into meaningful relationships. People from all walks of life tend to gravitate to Nathan because of his intentional efforts to care for them. Because of the longevity of the relationship between Nathan and me, I feel that I have a great perspective on Nathan's spiritual transformation. I do consider it an honor to call Nathan my friend and I have full confidence in his skill and abilities.
Bryan Rezen, Program Director, Church of the Resurrection, Kansas City, Missouri
- My relationship with Nathan has benefited both my walk with God and my work as a youth minister. In my relationship with God, Nathan has challenged me to live as Jesus lived and love my neighbor. I had always wondered, what does it mean to love my neighbor? I wondered who exactly is my neighbor? Nathan challenged me to look across the street. This opened my eyes to my immediate neighbors and how I could build a relationship with them through acts of kindness. I now mow my elderly neighbors yard to show her the love of Christ. These relationships that I'm building are not motivated by the gospel but are motivated by showing the love of Christ; I'm not trying to become a contagious Christian. The motive is purely connectional. Who knows what God can do through a connection like this?
- The other benefit of my relationship with Nathan is coaching/mentoring. The part I like best about Nathan's mentoring is that he doesn't try to answer the questions that I'm asking. You know the old adage, "If you fish for someone you can feed them for a day, but if you teach them to fish you feed them for a lifetime." Nathan is teaching me how to fish. He responds to my questions with questions of his own that challenge me to think for myself. He has guided me to many books that have helped me as a Christian and as a leader.
